Jul 1, 2015

What I Learned From Our First Month of Marriage





Isaac and I have been married for a little over a month! It has been one crazy month. We were married on May 9th, and went on our honeymoon the next day. The day after we got back from our honeymoon I performed in my hometown's ballet company's performance of "Mutiny!" It was a ballet all about pirates...sick right? That continued throughout the weekend, and then Monday through Wednesday I babysat two adorable kiddos while their mom was out of town and dad was on call at work. I must say that it was fun playing house for a couple of days. Isaac wasn't with me during the day because he was working, so when he walked through door each evening I was so happy to see him! This experience only reassured me even more that I want to be a stay-at-home mommy. But that's a post for different day! After our babysitting adventure, we started work! Isaac and I are both working at nursing homes this summer (different ones). I am doing HR work and he is doing an internship for healthcare administration. Our commute is about 45 minutes, so we have pretty early mornings and late nights. 

In our busy one month of marriage, I can say that I've learned so much about my role as a wife. It's so different from dating, but at the same time nothing has changed. That doesn't make sense...I know. After reflecting, here is what I have learned in our first month of marriage.

1. Marriage is hard work. I've learned that I must be constantly striving to improve my marriage in order to make our relationship the best it can be. I could see how being married could make a couple comfortable and result in a "cruise control" type of relationship. However, to keep progressing as a couple it takes selfless, kind actions and thoughts from both husband and wife.

2. Marriage is selfless. When I say that I must be constantly striving to improve my marriage, "I" is the key word there. I've always known that what makes me the happiest is knowing that Isaac is happy. Marriage is the ideal atmosphere for service. Serving each other shows love and brings happiness. Marriage is selfless. 

3. Getting up in the morning only became more difficult. Silly me over here thought that it would be easier to get up in the morning because we would go to bed on time (while we were dating we would stay up late to spend more time with each other, but now we are together all the time). FALSE.  Not only do we not go to bed on time, but it is so hard to get up in the morning! Which one sounds more appealing to you....getting out of your warm bed in your cold room or staying in your warm bed snuggling with your honey? Point made.

4. Spouses don't read minds. It might seem shocking that your spouse can't read your mind because if they really loved you then they would be able to know exactly how your feeling and exactly what you want, right? False! Isaac and I learned this early on in our relationship, but I've learned it over and over since we've been married. There is no use getting frustrated over something that I haven't communicated to Isaac. If it's not said out loud, we can't work together to resolve whatever it might be. At work the nursing staff has "in-services" to educate them on new procedure or to emphasize old procedure. In our first month of marriage, I think Isaac and I had some pretty productive "in-services," especially on laundry procedures ;) It's a silly analogy but it's so true! Communication is key. 

5. Enjoy it. I have found that Isaac and I are both happier if I quit my nit-picking and take a chill pill! It is not worth it to obsess over little things. Be like a dri-fit shirt. Let the water roll right off your back. I am married to the most amazing man on Earth. What could I ever have to complain about? Nada. That's what! Dri-fit shirt, Kiely, dri-fit shirt.  

I asked Isaac what he has learned in our first month of marriage and he said, "I learned that I'm a lot messier than I thought and it's harder to get out of bed when you're snuggling me. I learned that patience comes from your love for the other person and thinking about them rather than yourself." 
Well said honey! 

Marriage is the most rewarding experience. There is a lot to learn from it, and I highly recommend it!










5 comments

  1. dri fit shirt ftw!! haha!!

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  2. stumbled upon your blog from emily's and omg your blog design. on point. just had to let you know. haha also this is really fun to read, I have only been married for a year and I have definitely learned all these things! that's also super cool you do ballet, I used to do ballet waaaay back in high school :)

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  3. i'm so glad that was entertaining to someone!!!!

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  4. thank you so much for reading!!!

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  5. Absolutely love this! I just got engaged this summer and am so excited to be married to the love of my life next year :) These are very helpful tips! I especially love the reminder that that spouses don't read minds haha.

    xoxo Alexis
    www.alwaysinpearls.com

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